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In this minisode I'm informing some and reminding others to take some pressure off dating by recognizing that most dating partners are here for a good time and not a long time so lean into this reality and make the most of it in order to live your best dating life!

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Hey. Hey. Hey. This is a minisode   to the girlies who may be put a bit too much pressure on the dating process.   Meaning,   the women who are   not only looking for their person   or the love of their life or the person who they want to commit to for the rest of their lives, but they're doing it with,   like, every date   that they could potentially have or every guy they find on the dating app or every guy who they have interaction with in a romantic way. I'm here to suggest   that some people are here for a good time, not a long time.   What do I mean? I mean dating   and enjoying the process   in the meantime as you are   working toward finding your person.  

The reality is   that the vast majority of people will not work out. Statistically speaking, if you're searching for   one particular person,   then   everybody else   ain't gonna work.   So   why not   really think of   your dating experience as one in which you get to interact with   different people, new people,   and   enjoy it for those experiences,   recognizing that every date is not going to be   the date, every guy is not going to be the guy.   But can you have positive experiences   regardless? Can you enjoy meeting a new person, having interesting conversation,   having good food,   finding a new restaurant, going out for a fun activity,   expanding your social circle,   learning new things,   talking to someone who has a career   or a job that is new to you or interesting to you or who has hobbies   of interest to you, maybe learning a new hobby or getting into a new activity.  

If you approach dating in this way,   it will take a lot of the pressure off of it, which will reduce some of the stress of it and   significantly   increase your enjoyment of it.   So if you can recognize   that   most of the people you date are going to be here for a good time and not a long time, then you can let these things be what they are.   So the key is to, of course,   know what your ideal partner and ideal relationship looks like. Like, do that ideal partner list that I talk about   often where   you create a list of,   or you create   a list of characteristics and traits that your ideal partner would have. If you'd like a free tutorial, a free video tutorial on how to create that, you can simply email me, [email protected].  

It's in the show notes.   And send me a screenshot of your rating or review of the podcast, and I will send that along to you. But it is definitely a list that   I do not recommend you date without. It's the first thing you should do really.   So you, of course, have your overall idea of your ideal partner, but in the meantime, you're having to sort and sift. You're having to meet people and vet people. And how do you vet people? You date them. You go out with them. You see how the two of you interact. You see how they interact with other people. You ask questions. You answer questions.   You see if there's chemistry, if there's attraction,   all of these different things.  

And   in the meantime,   you do your best to enjoy the company of that person. And at the point in which you don't enjoy the company of that person, that's a good time to stop dating them. That's how this works. So this is just   a,   reminder for some and maybe new information for others   that if you are dating   effectively,   then you are dating multiple people casually   for a period of time and you're vetting people out and bringing new people in as you seek out your ideal partner, and that means a lot of people   are here for a good time and not a long time.   I highly recommend that you take this to heart   and live your best dating lives.  

Hey. By the way, I can be found in other places beyond this podcast.   Search my name on YouTube and you'll find my channel. Subscribe   for periodic how to videos for dealing with breakups and mastering dating.   That's right. I said mastering dating. It's a skill, ladies.   I can also be found on Instagram at tracy panach dot dating coach. And lastly,   I most encourage you to join my email list where you get breakup and dating support delivered to your inbox in addition to getting the most exclusive access to my programs and coaching services.   My email list subscribers are the first to know when my coaching programs launch and the only people to get discounts when they're offered.