The Bitter to Better Podcast

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Just a minute so to talk about this idea of   it's not that easy. What I mean here is hard doesn't mean impossible.   A lot of times when advice or guidance is provided to people so this can be through content seen on social media, reading an article, in a therapy or coaching session, things like that,   a very,   habitual   response for a lot of people is it's not that easy.   And I'm here to   wholeheartedly agree   and   make the point that it should be assumed   that it's not that easy.   What I mean is anything that's worth having or achieving in life   is usually not very easy. And the thing about it is even if it's something that's easy for you, there are a whole bunch of other people out there who it is not easy for and the other way around.  

So   I want to encourage you   to not let it's not that easy   be a reason to not try   if   it is something that you really want.   So I bring this up in context of   dating and moving past breakups because   that stuff ain't easy.   And,   also, I noticed that, you know, it can it can be discouraging   for any of us   to try to,   do the things and make the efforts needed in order for us to be in better positions after any sort of breakup or when it comes to our dating lives and our our our romantic lives.   So   it's important not to take   something   that is challenging   and turn it into impossible   simply because it's not easy to do.  

I'm not out here saying, and most people who have any sense   are not out here saying, the things that I am telling you are easy. Because quite frankly, if they were that easy, the content wouldn't exist in the first place. Why? Because there would be no reason to create the content. Why? Because everyone would be out here doing it. I talk with people about this in therapy and in coaching all the time. If it were easy, you likely wouldn't be sitting here today   in this session   because you would have already had it done. Think of all the things in your life that you already have done and checked off, and you're not going in for therapy or coaching   or advice on those things. Because for you, they've they've gotten done whether it was because they were easy or they were challenging, but you you tackled that particular task.  

The point is is if I am   watching something, if I'm seeking something out, if something has been created to give guidance or advice or words of wisdom,   then it's likely because for someone,   it's not easy.   But that fact   alone   is not reason for us not to try, and it definitely doesn't equate to impossible.   There's this quote,   that   I really love.   I think it goes,   will it be easy? No.   Will it be worth it? Absolutely.   If it's something important to you, if your peace of mind, your well-being, your happiness,   your desires for companionship,   your desires   to   live as stress free as possible, all of these things that that   go into moving past breakups or dating   or being in healthy relationships, if any of that sort of stuff is important to you,   then   it's worth it.  

So I just want to   just kind of put this reminder out there that when you see something   that when you see advice or guidance   or words of wisdom   that's presented to you about something that is challenging for you,   something that is scary,   any of those things,   it is understandable   to have the immediate reaction of it's not that easy because it's not.   And then   I encourage you,   I challenge you   to have your next thought be,   but I can try.   It's not easy, but I can try. And here is some content that is   giving me information on how I can try, on how I can go about this process. The next piece of that is breaking things down   into small steps and pieces. Because if you look at a challenging thing   as this overall thing, it can become very overwhelming and paralyzing. So then it does become important to think about what are the small ways that I can start making change. Because remember, progress not perfection. That is very important   to pair with this concept of it's not easy. Because anything that is not easy   is going to require   baby steps and pieces and parts. So you're really looking at the progress that you're making with that thing and not the the end goal and the perfection of it all. So just want to stop in to give, you know, this thought   that hard does not equal impossible.  

It's not easy. We know this,   but you can still try.   Hey. By the way, I can be found in other places besides this podcast.  

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Just search my name on YouTube and you'll find my channel.   Subscribe for periodic how to videos for dealing with breakups and mastering dating. That's right. I said mastering dating. It's a skill, ladies.   I can also be found on Instagram at tracypenock.   And last   I most encourage you to join my email list where you get breakup and dating support delivered to your inbox in addition to getting the most exclusive access to my programs and coaching services.   My email list subscribers are the first to know when my coaching programs launch and the only people to get discounts when they're offered.   As always, I'm glad we got into it and looking forward to next time.