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Should we become a podcast all about love and dating?!

In Episode #410 of 'Musings', Juan & I discuss: a brief glimpse of our personal relationships, what the advent of social technology has done for searching for a significant other, all the crazy new terminology the kids are coming up with and whether it is more difficult now compared to post WW1/2 or during the industrial revolution.

Massive thanks to Dave Jones, Ainsley Costello, Petar the Slav, The Podfather, Cole McCormick and Nick Malster for the support! Absolute legends, we really appreciate it.

Timeline:
(0:00) - Tech problems but undeterred
(0:38) - Topic choice
(1:34) - Wanting a relationship
(6:30) - Finding a partner with dating apps
(14:34) - Strategy for searching
(23:30) - Short term vs long term decision
(27:03) - Boostagram Lounge
(37:09) - Modern dating terms
(41:06) - Attachment styles & broad concepts
(49:08) - Is dating harder now?
(58:00) - Summary
(1:03:17) - V4V: Find me a girl


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