In this episode, I break down my annual goals for the year, sharing my approach to goal-setting and how i plan to improve in three key areas: body, mind and soul. I discuss my strategies for bulletproofing my body, mastering my sleep, embracing the long run and more. Join in as I outline these steps, and we hope you are having a wonderful day wherever you are in the world.
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Looking forward. Now previously, you talked about my annual goals as well, so a little bit of a higher baseline, higher alignment to a greater sort of status around it. Again, I've talked about it prior. I'm gonna try and articulate it today, talk a little bit more around it, and what my new annual goals look like. Now I schedule my goals between not annual year to year by the calendar, nor by financial, I actually do it from my birthday. So it just, so happened that I did this, I believe it was when I was 27 years old is when I began really tracking it minutely to all the little details. That's when it really, really began, and now into the 32 year old annual goals is what I've been putting together and what I'm gonna be talking about now. I wanna go back and review the 31 year old goals. Why? I've done this across the monthly goals, and if you really, really are keen to inspect on that you can go through the previous monthly goals in the Mere Mortals podcast, but I wanna talk about why I've got these other goals now that have come up for the next year, how I'm trying to attack them, I guess. So it gives you a bit of an insight into us, maybe at least one of the individuals in The Mirror Mortals, and honestly it helps me articulate it to myself. And as I'm gonna be talking about it, maybe I'll come across some updates or edits that I need to do, and awesome. If I do that, really valuable for myself. So let's kick into it. Now, 1st and foremost, if you don't know, I split my goals into 3 big chunky goals, right? You got your mind, body, and the soul.
There's loads of different ways. You can split a car and split it up into different sort of sections. You can go into different categories. At least for me, it it's a big grouping. A lot of people do it. It's, MECI, mutually exclusive, cumulatively sourceive, but I'm borrowing a terminology there from some of the consulting background as well, but in any case, you can kind of bundle up most things within that, at least for me, body, mind, soul. Now I've got this aspirational, aspirational what I call eminent human being levels between a level 0 when I first began doing this to a level 5. Right now I'm in level, I can actually tell you specifically if I bring it up that I've got in front of me, right now under my terminology, I wanna level 2 for mind, level 2 of the body, and level 2 in the soul. Wonderful.
I'm looking to progress towards level 3, and I'd have to get into here about what they mean, specific definitions to myself. All you need to know is it allows me to progress to, hey, I'm on what I deem to be level 2. What does level 3 look like for me? And there's 5 levels in each of those sections. Now level 5, just a little touch on that, isn't something I could probably achieve in 2 years, 5 years. It might be something I never achieve, so again, it's aspirational. Back into the annual goals. So I talked about that, that that's a 3 high level, body, mind, and soul, and so then I break down individual goals that map towards those. I don't necessarily have to have a certain amount, noise, or a one to one mapping. It just depends when I think about it, and for me when I did these annual goals, like I have done in previous years, sometimes I've stepped away and spent 2 hours really thinking about what I wanna challenge myself with, what I want to aspire towards, what I wanna grow, what I need to, retrospect with. Other times it's something interesting. Other times it's something just to keep it fun and to pull me away from just, sometimes the top a mindset of work, work, work, do, do, do, And so it reflects in the ways that I put these together. Now to the meaty stuff, the actual goals, I have in total 13 goals in total for my 32 year old annual goals. I'm gonna be calling them annual goals from now on.
I'm gonna go straight through them, but let's go through it. There's 3, 3 in the body. There is 36 in the mind, and then the rest are gonna be in the soul. So body number 1, I wanna bulletproof my body. Get stronger, stay unbreakable, train smart, live hard. And look, I've got a more description for each one of these, but I'd rather just talk about it directly to you, my immortal lights. Bulletproofing my body, all this means is for the last few years really for me as from a body perspective, I've been trying to get better, improve, grow, and that has been run more, lift more, Olympic lifting, do more athleticism, become better at gymnastics, all these different things, and all of it was fun. All of it was great. I accomplished plenty of things and all, a lot of notice, notable items, at least for me personally. Right? Wonderful.
But one of the aspects of growing older, as many people would know and those who don't know, well, get ready to find out, is that, you need to make sure that your body's gonna be capable to withstand whatever else you bring at it for many, many years to come. For me, there's always gonna be certain things either through injuries, which for me, it's my hamstrings and my lower back that will always spike some sort of pain, some sort of discomfort when I'm lifting in particular ways or just through everyday life. So one of the focuses for me was I'm gonna bulletproof my body. Over the next year just focus on the really key specific thing, at least for me personally, that might impair me for lifting, running, training for many, many years to come. Specifically, I've listed that down. It's all around incorporating mobility drills, stability workouts, functional movements into my routine, targeting the erector spinae, the quadratus lumborum through all the rotator cuff muscles, rear deltoids, glutes, hip flexors, performance, VMO, hamstrings, transfer abdominis, and the obliques. So again, did my own sort of research on what sort of training that looks like in applicability, just as a quick sort of insight. That means I've developed a bit of a a warm up that I do at least, or try to get as many of these things and develop my training over the next year at the very least to focus and optimize for that as opposed to say optimizing for I'm gonna get the biggest deadlift that I can or the fastest run that I can. So that's what that first goal is. 2nd one, I wanna master my quality of sleep. So resting well, recovering strong, sleeping smart, living better.
Look, this goal is more, hopefully by default, will just improve in that my daughter's starting to sleep better, and then I go, I'm gonna be sleeping better. So in connection with that just kinda naturally happening, I'm also gonna be, and putting it as a goal to try and provide more of a focus for myself in am I doing the right things in my sleep routine, in my sleeping habits? Am I sitting on my phone for too long? Am I staring at light too long just before I go to sleep? All all of the various things, right? I could talk about it here for quite a while, but the reality is there's probably just habits, things that I can do to improve my sleep. It has been terrible for a really long time. For, you know, this current time, it's the, we're at the start of August, and I can tell you right now, because I keep some of these details pretty on track, my 3 months of sleeping average right now is 6 point 44 hours at the moment on average. The 3 months deep sleep average is basically half an hour, I'm sorry, yeah, half an hour is my deep sleep average, and 1.24 is my REM sleeping average. How good are those numbers? Look, it's ballpark, right, ballpark, but at the very least just to inform you sleep doesn't mean that great, and so I wanna improve it. Hence, the ideal goal. The third one, I'm gonna embrace the long run. I'm gonna endure, enjoy, excel, run far, live free, goddamnit.
And this doesn't mean, yeah, go into a race or go into a certain distance for the joy that comes in in achieving a particular target by time frame, but embracing the long run for some of the more fun aspects. And what that looks like is trying to obviously do some road running, but maybe doing some non road running, you know, going off trail, going to locations where I want to run around. For instance for the last couple of weeks I've been running around Brisbane City in slightly different areas, and that's been really fun to run, especially racing a longer run, but just kind of admiring looking around the place as opposed to just being focused on, what am I doing, 5 minutes 30? 5 minutes 15. I've got to be this time. No, it's, I'm going to run from here to that bridge and back, and I'm going to just seek and embrace the long run. So in a nutshell, that's what that is. And that that wraps up the the body goals for my side. Now to talk through the mind goals, one, being aware of my accounts, and I'm talking here more financially, understanding your numbers, mastering your money, financial clarity, business stability, easy. I wanna just pay attention, stay informed.
There's lots of varying, things that I participate in my day to day. And so for that reason, I just need to be very, accountable with my accounts. Leave it at that, pretty self explanatory. Next one, I wanna start the process, and this is cool. Start the process of making people work optional. Wanna grow the business, secure our future, work optional, financially unstoppable. Do you like that? Look, it's the and I like this particular phrasing. I've thought about this for a while. Starting to make people work optional. In particular for me, this is starting at the core focus of my family, right, with my partner, with the work optional, potential. And so for me, the end goal is, yep, start that process. Doesn't necessarily mean that I will achieve it, Right? But you've gotta begin it somewhere and start wondering what are the things you have to do?
What do you have to put a play to allow that to happen? Are there other ventures that I need to look at, and see other potential opportunities that I need to or not not do. Right? But sometimes it's as much when you say yes and do then to the things you have to say no to. So, that particular goal is to help me put together time and thoughts and focus into achieving that. The next one is easy one, spelling the mere mortal brand. Expand, expand the reach, amplify the voice, mere mortals limitless growth. Well, it's just about increasing our audience engagement, growth, where we attack it from. You would have seen over the last couple of months just the type of content that we produce in the varying amounts, type of interviews, where we're connecting.
Again, it's just putting myself down to another year of trying to grow, to help our people, to connect with the mere mortal lives. What are other ways that we can connect? What are other ways that we can build this into something that gets a lot of value for people, and in return, we find a lot of value, and there's lots of ways you can dice up that value around time, talent, treasure, all the things that we talk about from a value for value perspective, and it's continuing that along to try and help out a bunch of people and put our content. That's useful for us and useful for others. The other one for the mind is I wanna maximize AI usage. So leveraging intelligence, maximizing impact, embracing AI, and elevating everything. This is really self explanatory. It's already happening in my day to day, but I wanna increase it. I wanna jack it up to 11. If I'm gonna focus on something, it's leveraging the utilisation of AI in a lot of other things that I do.
If I don't apply it basically over the next year, I'm going to become inefficient at the end of it. That's point blank. I'm not using all the stuff. Gonna be inefficient. I won't be able to do other things, high value items that I wanna be achieving. So embrace it, maximize it, choose it. 8, wanna find fun in sim racing, and, yeah, look, just racing hard, playing harder. Just one of those things. And again, at the onset of this conversation, I mentioned, hey, sometimes I've gotta introduce things that are fun. That's one of them. I've always enjoyed racing in some extent. I don't have the time to go out to a racing track and go and race around in a car. But for me, I can find myself a a SIM sort of setup, which I have at the moment at home. I'm able to find one time a week usually to be able to participate, and that's it. That's, something a little bit different. It's not something I share with a lot of my mates nor is it super, like it's not unique just to me, but also I share it with a lot of people around me that do this. And it's my own, it's my sort of get away from the mind that will tell me to, hey, I need to just keep doing, keep doing more, more, more, more, more for that optimization.
That's another goal to help me pull back and go, hey, there's just other fun stuff you can do because you can. And for me, I find fine in that, so do it more. Number 9, I want to expand my understanding with a new language. Understand, learn, expand. Yeah. Moving into Italian. Italian, salve, hello, they're Italian, but yeah, I'm moving moving on from the French that I was learning into Italian. The one big obvious reason, they'll be heading over to Italy for quite a long time, next year. We're gonna extend the holiday. That will be great fun, and I'll just wanna pick up the language, when I get over there. Plus, yep, I think I've done 760 odd days of French in a row, so I want to shift over to something new, and Italian is a pretty straightforward one to pick up, in any case with my background in knowing Spanish.
Moving into the soul now. So I've got 4 here, no soul. 1, and disconnects up to the Italian piece. I wanna play him the perfect getaway wedding, intimate, beautiful, unforgettable, easy. We're getting married next year. It's gonna be in some non, I'm not gonna disclose it somewhere in Europe. It's gonna be really, really, really, really, really, really close people to us that are gonna be, going over there, very, very fine amount of people and just enjoying that. There obviously comes a lot planning with wedding, certainly doing it in different countries a little bit different. Some of the logistics are, 1, simple, others, hot. So, you know, photographer, food, accommodation, where you go. And obviously we're gonna be there with our, or will be 2 year old child as well. So lots lots of planning, and so I'm putting a big dedication to, yeah, to an annual goal. It's a big important piece, and there's gotta be things that we're gonna do on a monthly basis to make sure that we success success.
Because hopefully we're only doing it once. The next one down, and this one took a while. I rewrote this one. I I had something down, then I rewrote it, and it kinda came out more like this. To give you some context, my original one was trying to talk or interact basically with high level people and do so without being nervous or anxious because I I could that was probably the direct result of what I was seeing. Sometimes I go and have conversations with a CEO, or, you know, I sound like Tim Ferris, and I can recall when I was talking to Tim on a Discord chat, I was like, I'm a bit nervous, I'm a bit anxious of talking to this person unlike what I would be with a teammate or my partner or my family, right? And that's because you know people and they know you and obviously this other person. You've got you've got set them at this super high expectation, and they've got you as no expectation, but you, for whatever reason, I don't know, equate yourself as needing to be at a particular level in any case. As you're hearing me talk, you can kinda see what I'm talking about. But for me, in any case, it's I rewrote it as self worth over self esteem. Now this was another aspect from John DeMarty, I believe it is. Yeah.
And he he put up a a big post about this, and it kinda struck me as, like, actually, the underlying view of this all is I have great self esteem when I needed to have, but self esteem can only take you so far. And it is also a variable. However, something like self worth, which is just the understanding of you exactly as it is, then doesn't get impacted from externalities like the individuals that you talk to. So I think I come from a place of much more self esteem than I do self worth. Yeah. Not to say the one's better the other, but, you know, having both is really great, I I guess I would say. But at least specifically I'm saying self worth more than self esteem in terms of my optimization. I'm I'm moving towards, and what's gonna help me most. So that's that particular goal. And it's, yeah, and reflecting, improving, putting myself into more opportunities to be able to do that.
The last 2 here, one, achieving some mental anti fragility, I have this a lot. This comes easily in some aspects of my life, physical nature. I'm pretty up for doing pretty much whatever. If you follow me at all on my personal side of things, on my socials, I don't even know how long I've been posting in the mornings, and I'm up at about 5 AM, and I train, and I run, and I do all the various things. And, yeah, from an end mental infertility, fantastic. In other areas, I guess it'd be more so the ones that come up unexpectedly, the ones that I don't place myself into, there's more fragility of the mind, and so this is just capturing trying to embrace those challenges.
It's to practice, for want of a better word, the stoic way of handling something that comes to me or the obstacle. I think there's a lot of improvements that can be done in there. So at least annual for the annual goal, I wanna focus on it. And lastly, wanna master master, big word, relationship building. So connecting, connecting deeply, bond strongly, build relationships at last. This was a bit of a harder one to pinpoint exactly how I'm gonna be going about it, but it's all about active listening, being interested, consistency, empathetic, self aware, and really importantly, because I've learned over the last few years, it's building and mastering the bond and the relationship with the people that I care about connecting. Right? We only have a certain amount of time that you have in this world. I cannot master my relationship with absolutely everyone, so it also means connecting with those that I do have the time, and unfortunately or fortunately letting those others go because yeah for me it just there's more effectiveness, there's more joy, there's a betterment to fewer, the better, deeper relationships than it is to have plenty of really shallow relationships. That's the reality of it. So those are the 13 annual goals that I've got coming up, for my 32 years round the world. I'm excited. I'm excited for a lot of these. I'm excited to learn Italian. I'm obviously excited to do the wedding and the big travel is gonna come up at the end of the year, at the end of these annual goals, basically.
Lots of good stuff hopefully coming out from the podcast perspective, and I'm weirdly really, really excited to focus in on my deficiencies when it comes into fitness, lower back, hips, piriformis, all these little things that have always given me niggles. I'm like, I wanna get that just unbreakable. Unbreakable is what I wanna really feel like by the end of it all. So I hope you have enjoyed. If you've got any questions around maybe how goal settings are structured once again by the way that we do it, send us a message. If there's any other way so we can help out, let us know, but for now, be immortalized. I hope you have enjoyed that soliloquy around my goals. Take care wherever you are in the world. 1 out.
Looking forward. Now previously, you talked about my annual goals as well, so a little bit of a higher baseline, higher alignment to a greater sort of status around it. Again, I've talked about it prior. I'm gonna try and articulate it today, talk a little bit more around it, and what my new annual goals look like. Now I schedule my goals between not annual year to year by the calendar, nor by financial, I actually do it from my birthday. So it just, so happened that I did this, I believe it was when I was 27 years old is when I began really tracking it minutely to all the little details. That's when it really, really began, and now into the 32 year old annual goals is what I've been putting together and what I'm gonna be talking about now. I wanna go back and review the 31 year old goals. Why? I've done this across the monthly goals, and if you really, really are keen to inspect on that you can go through the previous monthly goals in the Mere Mortals podcast, but I wanna talk about why I've got these other goals now that have come up for the next year, how I'm trying to attack them, I guess. So it gives you a bit of an insight into us, maybe at least one of the individuals in The Mirror Mortals, and honestly it helps me articulate it to myself. And as I'm gonna be talking about it, maybe I'll come across some updates or edits that I need to do, and awesome. If I do that, really valuable for myself. So let's kick into it. Now, 1st and foremost, if you don't know, I split my goals into 3 big chunky goals, right? You got your mind, body, and the soul.
There's loads of different ways. You can split a car and split it up into different sort of sections. You can go into different categories. At least for me, it it's a big grouping. A lot of people do it. It's, MECI, mutually exclusive, cumulatively sourceive, but I'm borrowing a terminology there from some of the consulting background as well, but in any case, you can kind of bundle up most things within that, at least for me, body, mind, soul. Now I've got this aspirational, aspirational what I call eminent human being levels between a level 0 when I first began doing this to a level 5. Right now I'm in level, I can actually tell you specifically if I bring it up that I've got in front of me, right now under my terminology, I wanna level 2 for mind, level 2 of the body, and level 2 in the soul. Wonderful.
I'm looking to progress towards level 3, and I'd have to get into here about what they mean, specific definitions to myself. All you need to know is it allows me to progress to, hey, I'm on what I deem to be level 2. What does level 3 look like for me? And there's 5 levels in each of those sections. Now level 5, just a little touch on that, isn't something I could probably achieve in 2 years, 5 years. It might be something I never achieve, so again, it's aspirational. Back into the annual goals. So I talked about that, that that's a 3 high level, body, mind, and soul, and so then I break down individual goals that map towards those. I don't necessarily have to have a certain amount, noise, or a one to one mapping. It just depends when I think about it, and for me when I did these annual goals, like I have done in previous years, sometimes I've stepped away and spent 2 hours really thinking about what I wanna challenge myself with, what I want to aspire towards, what I wanna grow, what I need to, retrospect with. Other times it's something interesting. Other times it's something just to keep it fun and to pull me away from just, sometimes the top a mindset of work, work, work, do, do, do, And so it reflects in the ways that I put these together. Now to the meaty stuff, the actual goals, I have in total 13 goals in total for my 32 year old annual goals. I'm gonna be calling them annual goals from now on.
I'm gonna go straight through them, but let's go through it. There's 3, 3 in the body. There is 36 in the mind, and then the rest are gonna be in the soul. So body number 1, I wanna bulletproof my body. Get stronger, stay unbreakable, train smart, live hard. And look, I've got a more description for each one of these, but I'd rather just talk about it directly to you, my immortal lights. Bulletproofing my body, all this means is for the last few years really for me as from a body perspective, I've been trying to get better, improve, grow, and that has been run more, lift more, Olympic lifting, do more athleticism, become better at gymnastics, all these different things, and all of it was fun. All of it was great. I accomplished plenty of things and all, a lot of notice, notable items, at least for me personally. Right? Wonderful.
But one of the aspects of growing older, as many people would know and those who don't know, well, get ready to find out, is that, you need to make sure that your body's gonna be capable to withstand whatever else you bring at it for many, many years to come. For me, there's always gonna be certain things either through injuries, which for me, it's my hamstrings and my lower back that will always spike some sort of pain, some sort of discomfort when I'm lifting in particular ways or just through everyday life. So one of the focuses for me was I'm gonna bulletproof my body. Over the next year just focus on the really key specific thing, at least for me personally, that might impair me for lifting, running, training for many, many years to come. Specifically, I've listed that down. It's all around incorporating mobility drills, stability workouts, functional movements into my routine, targeting the erector spinae, the quadratus lumborum through all the rotator cuff muscles, rear deltoids, glutes, hip flexors, performance, VMO, hamstrings, transfer abdominis, and the obliques. So again, did my own sort of research on what sort of training that looks like in applicability, just as a quick sort of insight. That means I've developed a bit of a a warm up that I do at least, or try to get as many of these things and develop my training over the next year at the very least to focus and optimize for that as opposed to say optimizing for I'm gonna get the biggest deadlift that I can or the fastest run that I can. So that's what that first goal is. 2nd one, I wanna master my quality of sleep. So resting well, recovering strong, sleeping smart, living better.
Look, this goal is more, hopefully by default, will just improve in that my daughter's starting to sleep better, and then I go, I'm gonna be sleeping better. So in connection with that just kinda naturally happening, I'm also gonna be, and putting it as a goal to try and provide more of a focus for myself in am I doing the right things in my sleep routine, in my sleeping habits? Am I sitting on my phone for too long? Am I staring at light too long just before I go to sleep? All all of the various things, right? I could talk about it here for quite a while, but the reality is there's probably just habits, things that I can do to improve my sleep. It has been terrible for a really long time. For, you know, this current time, it's the, we're at the start of August, and I can tell you right now, because I keep some of these details pretty on track, my 3 months of sleeping average right now is 6 point 44 hours at the moment on average. The 3 months deep sleep average is basically half an hour, I'm sorry, yeah, half an hour is my deep sleep average, and 1.24 is my REM sleeping average. How good are those numbers? Look, it's ballpark, right, ballpark, but at the very least just to inform you sleep doesn't mean that great, and so I wanna improve it. Hence, the ideal goal. The third one, I'm gonna embrace the long run. I'm gonna endure, enjoy, excel, run far, live free, goddamnit.
And this doesn't mean, yeah, go into a race or go into a certain distance for the joy that comes in in achieving a particular target by time frame, but embracing the long run for some of the more fun aspects. And what that looks like is trying to obviously do some road running, but maybe doing some non road running, you know, going off trail, going to locations where I want to run around. For instance for the last couple of weeks I've been running around Brisbane City in slightly different areas, and that's been really fun to run, especially racing a longer run, but just kind of admiring looking around the place as opposed to just being focused on, what am I doing, 5 minutes 30? 5 minutes 15. I've got to be this time. No, it's, I'm going to run from here to that bridge and back, and I'm going to just seek and embrace the long run. So in a nutshell, that's what that is. And that that wraps up the the body goals for my side. Now to talk through the mind goals, one, being aware of my accounts, and I'm talking here more financially, understanding your numbers, mastering your money, financial clarity, business stability, easy. I wanna just pay attention, stay informed.
There's lots of varying, things that I participate in my day to day. And so for that reason, I just need to be very, accountable with my accounts. Leave it at that, pretty self explanatory. Next one, I wanna start the process, and this is cool. Start the process of making people work optional. Wanna grow the business, secure our future, work optional, financially unstoppable. Do you like that? Look, it's the and I like this particular phrasing. I've thought about this for a while. Starting to make people work optional. In particular for me, this is starting at the core focus of my family, right, with my partner, with the work optional, potential. And so for me, the end goal is, yep, start that process. Doesn't necessarily mean that I will achieve it, Right? But you've gotta begin it somewhere and start wondering what are the things you have to do?
What do you have to put a play to allow that to happen? Are there other ventures that I need to look at, and see other potential opportunities that I need to or not not do. Right? But sometimes it's as much when you say yes and do then to the things you have to say no to. So, that particular goal is to help me put together time and thoughts and focus into achieving that. The next one is easy one, spelling the mere mortal brand. Expand, expand the reach, amplify the voice, mere mortals limitless growth. Well, it's just about increasing our audience engagement, growth, where we attack it from. You would have seen over the last couple of months just the type of content that we produce in the varying amounts, type of interviews, where we're connecting.
Again, it's just putting myself down to another year of trying to grow, to help our people, to connect with the mere mortal lives. What are other ways that we can connect? What are other ways that we can build this into something that gets a lot of value for people, and in return, we find a lot of value, and there's lots of ways you can dice up that value around time, talent, treasure, all the things that we talk about from a value for value perspective, and it's continuing that along to try and help out a bunch of people and put our content. That's useful for us and useful for others. The other one for the mind is I wanna maximize AI usage. So leveraging intelligence, maximizing impact, embracing AI, and elevating everything. This is really self explanatory. It's already happening in my day to day, but I wanna increase it. I wanna jack it up to 11. If I'm gonna focus on something, it's leveraging the utilisation of AI in a lot of other things that I do.
If I don't apply it basically over the next year, I'm going to become inefficient at the end of it. That's point blank. I'm not using all the stuff. Gonna be inefficient. I won't be able to do other things, high value items that I wanna be achieving. So embrace it, maximize it, choose it. 8, wanna find fun in sim racing, and, yeah, look, just racing hard, playing harder. Just one of those things. And again, at the onset of this conversation, I mentioned, hey, sometimes I've gotta introduce things that are fun. That's one of them. I've always enjoyed racing in some extent. I don't have the time to go out to a racing track and go and race around in a car. But for me, I can find myself a a SIM sort of setup, which I have at the moment at home. I'm able to find one time a week usually to be able to participate, and that's it. That's, something a little bit different. It's not something I share with a lot of my mates nor is it super, like it's not unique just to me, but also I share it with a lot of people around me that do this. And it's my own, it's my sort of get away from the mind that will tell me to, hey, I need to just keep doing, keep doing more, more, more, more, more for that optimization.
That's another goal to help me pull back and go, hey, there's just other fun stuff you can do because you can. And for me, I find fine in that, so do it more. Number 9, I want to expand my understanding with a new language. Understand, learn, expand. Yeah. Moving into Italian. Italian, salve, hello, they're Italian, but yeah, I'm moving moving on from the French that I was learning into Italian. The one big obvious reason, they'll be heading over to Italy for quite a long time, next year. We're gonna extend the holiday. That will be great fun, and I'll just wanna pick up the language, when I get over there. Plus, yep, I think I've done 760 odd days of French in a row, so I want to shift over to something new, and Italian is a pretty straightforward one to pick up, in any case with my background in knowing Spanish.
Moving into the soul now. So I've got 4 here, no soul. 1, and disconnects up to the Italian piece. I wanna play him the perfect getaway wedding, intimate, beautiful, unforgettable, easy. We're getting married next year. It's gonna be in some non, I'm not gonna disclose it somewhere in Europe. It's gonna be really, really, really, really, really, really close people to us that are gonna be, going over there, very, very fine amount of people and just enjoying that. There obviously comes a lot planning with wedding, certainly doing it in different countries a little bit different. Some of the logistics are, 1, simple, others, hot. So, you know, photographer, food, accommodation, where you go. And obviously we're gonna be there with our, or will be 2 year old child as well. So lots lots of planning, and so I'm putting a big dedication to, yeah, to an annual goal. It's a big important piece, and there's gotta be things that we're gonna do on a monthly basis to make sure that we success success.
Because hopefully we're only doing it once. The next one down, and this one took a while. I rewrote this one. I I had something down, then I rewrote it, and it kinda came out more like this. To give you some context, my original one was trying to talk or interact basically with high level people and do so without being nervous or anxious because I I could that was probably the direct result of what I was seeing. Sometimes I go and have conversations with a CEO, or, you know, I sound like Tim Ferris, and I can recall when I was talking to Tim on a Discord chat, I was like, I'm a bit nervous, I'm a bit anxious of talking to this person unlike what I would be with a teammate or my partner or my family, right? And that's because you know people and they know you and obviously this other person. You've got you've got set them at this super high expectation, and they've got you as no expectation, but you, for whatever reason, I don't know, equate yourself as needing to be at a particular level in any case. As you're hearing me talk, you can kinda see what I'm talking about. But for me, in any case, it's I rewrote it as self worth over self esteem. Now this was another aspect from John DeMarty, I believe it is. Yeah.
And he he put up a a big post about this, and it kinda struck me as, like, actually, the underlying view of this all is I have great self esteem when I needed to have, but self esteem can only take you so far. And it is also a variable. However, something like self worth, which is just the understanding of you exactly as it is, then doesn't get impacted from externalities like the individuals that you talk to. So I think I come from a place of much more self esteem than I do self worth. Yeah. Not to say the one's better the other, but, you know, having both is really great, I I guess I would say. But at least specifically I'm saying self worth more than self esteem in terms of my optimization. I'm I'm moving towards, and what's gonna help me most. So that's that particular goal. And it's, yeah, and reflecting, improving, putting myself into more opportunities to be able to do that.
The last 2 here, one, achieving some mental anti fragility, I have this a lot. This comes easily in some aspects of my life, physical nature. I'm pretty up for doing pretty much whatever. If you follow me at all on my personal side of things, on my socials, I don't even know how long I've been posting in the mornings, and I'm up at about 5 AM, and I train, and I run, and I do all the various things. And, yeah, from an end mental infertility, fantastic. In other areas, I guess it'd be more so the ones that come up unexpectedly, the ones that I don't place myself into, there's more fragility of the mind, and so this is just capturing trying to embrace those challenges.
It's to practice, for want of a better word, the stoic way of handling something that comes to me or the obstacle. I think there's a lot of improvements that can be done in there. So at least annual for the annual goal, I wanna focus on it. And lastly, wanna master master, big word, relationship building. So connecting, connecting deeply, bond strongly, build relationships at last. This was a bit of a harder one to pinpoint exactly how I'm gonna be going about it, but it's all about active listening, being interested, consistency, empathetic, self aware, and really importantly, because I've learned over the last few years, it's building and mastering the bond and the relationship with the people that I care about connecting. Right? We only have a certain amount of time that you have in this world. I cannot master my relationship with absolutely everyone, so it also means connecting with those that I do have the time, and unfortunately or fortunately letting those others go because yeah for me it just there's more effectiveness, there's more joy, there's a betterment to fewer, the better, deeper relationships than it is to have plenty of really shallow relationships. That's the reality of it. So those are the 13 annual goals that I've got coming up, for my 32 years round the world. I'm excited. I'm excited for a lot of these. I'm excited to learn Italian. I'm obviously excited to do the wedding and the big travel is gonna come up at the end of the year, at the end of these annual goals, basically.
Lots of good stuff hopefully coming out from the podcast perspective, and I'm weirdly really, really excited to focus in on my deficiencies when it comes into fitness, lower back, hips, piriformis, all these little things that have always given me niggles. I'm like, I wanna get that just unbreakable. Unbreakable is what I wanna really feel like by the end of it all. So I hope you have enjoyed. If you've got any questions around maybe how goal settings are structured once again by the way that we do it, send us a message. If there's any other way so we can help out, let us know, but for now, be immortalized. I hope you have enjoyed that soliloquy around my goals. Take care wherever you are in the world. 1 out.
