Is mindfulness all it's cracked up to be?
In Episode #388 of 'Meanderings' I discuss: why I've been feeling anxious recently, the common setbacks that stop people from trying out meditation, helpful podcasts and books to dive deeper into, our inability to fully solve the problem of living in the past/future and some potential downsides that can occur from living too much in the present moment.
I hope you have a fantastic day wherever you are in the world, Kyrin out!
Timeline:
(0:00) - In a dreamland
(0:32) - Definition & my experience
(6:02) - Meditation & roadblocks
(15:11) - Resources
(18:35) - Constant relearning
(31:45) - Downsides
(43:35) - Summary
(51:10) - V4V: Check out the book reviews
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